Masturbation Secrets for Men & Women
Everybody does it, both men and women, but very few talk about it. There are many myths out there about masturbation, how it can damage your health, and it’s frowned on by many as being abnormal. All are un-founded, in fact it can be very beneficial for our health both mentally and physically. Here are some facts you may not know and some helpful tips to improve your experience.
Who’s doing it, and when?
- 95% of men and 85% of women masturbate.
- 40% of men and 22% of women do it every day.
- 55% of men and 48% of women do it at least once a week.
- 53% of women use a vibrator.
- 61% of Christian men admit to masturbating, with 13% considering it to be ‘normal’.
Is it healthy?
Orgasms increase your circulation and keeping the blood flowing to your genital area keeps your tissue healthy. Your heart rate, respiration and blood pressure increases, giving you a cardiovascular workout. Studies suggest it may reduce the risk or prostate cancer in men and cervical infections in women. It’s a very effective way of relieving menstrual cramps. It also releases hormones which lift your mood, relieves stress and the relaxing feeling you experience afterwards can act as a natural sedative helping you to relax and get a good nights sleep.
Can you do it too much?
Everyone’s sex drive is different; some people will masturbate 2 or 3 times a week, other 2 or 3 times a day. As long as it’s not interfering with your normally daily life, or taking precedence over work or your daily routine, or your relationship with your partner, there shouldn’t be any problem. It won’t decrease your sex drive or cause health problems apart from making you physically tired from the exertion. It’s one of life’s great pleasures, and it’s good for you.
Will it damage my relationship?
The fact is that people masturbate whether they are single, in a good relationship or in a bad relationship, it’s just a normal thing to do – it shouldn’t have an effect on your partner as it’s not a reflection on them, or a sign that there is something wrong with your relationship. It should not effect a healthy sexual relationship with your partner, but happen along side it like any other routine activity.
Like anything else in life that becomes excessive, if you are finding that you have a problem with masturbation, that it has become a compulsion and it is affecting finding a relationship, or take preference over your partner then you should think about evaluating your situation, maybe seeing a sex therapist.
How can I improve the experience?
A 5-minute quickie is fine for most days, but if you want to get more out of the experience then try ‘edging’ or the stop and start method. Work yourself up until you are on the verge or orgasm, then stop briefly before continuing, this should give you a much stronger, especially if you repeat a few times before finally coming.
Use a toy, there’s a huge range of vibrators available for women and the Fleshlight for men, try something new to keep things interesting.
This one doesn’t have to be just for the men. Try some visual aids, don’t just stick to the same material, think up some new fantasies, look up some different porn stars that turn you, sexual videos, books and magazines and find new things that push your buttons.
Get your partner to join in, you could watch each other masturbate or teach each other some new tricks, more hands make things more interesting!
Try the tantric method of controlling your breathing – take slow shallow breaths in through your nose and deeper breaths out through your mouth. Keep the breaths deep and regular and build your arousal to become truly intense.
Use some lube – it will stop you becoming sore from the friction, and also give that very satisfying and more realistic feel. Definitely use it with your sex toys or on it’s own.